We don’t need to give “thingies” as much as we need to educate.
Defiance is doing its annual Coats for Christmas. The local social service agencies are stressing out because the “need” for toys for needy children has skyrocketed this year (parents can pick up toys and food vouchers from agencies so children will have a toy and holiday dishes for Thanksgiving and Christmas). I know that my hometown and millions of others around North America will be trying to feed people Thanksgiving Dinner and provide things for them for Christmas so they’ll “have a merry holiday.” I remember going to translate for Spanish-speaking families at Delaware Ohio’s County Fairgrounds for their annual Christmas Clearinghouse, where rows of tables boasted bag after bag of preservative-filled, store bought food I knew some “needy” families would just throw away anyway. You could go through clothing department areas, toiletry areas, coat and outerwear areas, and toy tables, and depending on your income, could pick a certain number of pieces from each table, pick up a bag of food on your way out, and you’d be able to have Christmas with your family because otherwise, you couldn’t afford to. Besides the fact that we’ve long forgotten the real Reason for the Season, I walked away from that translating volunteer opportunity thinking that we don’t need to give “thingies” as much as we need to educate. People are going to “need” “stuff” every year. So by giving stuff, we’re creating a population dependent on giveaways and hand-outs. A population that thinks it deserves freebies, and that no amount of stuff is ever too much to ask for. I’ve heard the slogan, “Not a handout, a hand up;” the intentions might be great behind that “hand up,” but some people turn it into the handout that they want it to be. I wonder how other countries handle people who would come to a Christmas Clearinghouse “needing” stuff to “help them celebrate the holiday”. Do they give them the stuff they say they want? Do those who have not care about those who have not? Lots of us who have are guilt-tripped about not giving to those who have not. Do other countries let their “poor” pull themselves up by their bootstraps, knowing that if they really want to get themselves out of poverty, they’ll find it in themselves, and that life isn’t just rough for them, but for all? I know that I don’t need anything in the world more than to be with my family during the times of year that are sacred to us. So many people seem to have to make up for having rotten or dysfunctional family relationships with “stuff”.
On another thought, not that we would ever ask for it, but would those people working the Christmas Clearinghouse give freebies to my family? Our income is less than middle class status, but we appreciate what we have, we take care of our belongings so they’re not ratty, and we don’t beg or ask for “stuff”. We save what we earn so we can afford what really matters to us in life, like people did back in the day when people appreciated the value of money more. We get pressured to give, give, give, but think, why? When others don’t appreciate what we offer? We try to donate our gently used appliances to charities such as Love, Inc., and People In Need, or clothes to used clothing stores, and they refuse it, saying they only take brand new refrigerators or whatever. We rarely buy brand new for ourselves; why can’t others appreciate appliances that work perfectly well but aren’t straight from the department store? Or clothes that we’ve gently worn but aren’t “in style”? Hey, beggars can’t be choosers.